true friends

some say they come and go like the wind.
yet im lucky to say that i have some that are here to stay.

i had an argument today that contrast friends and family. the opposite opinion would suggest that true friends are nonexistent. you will end up being hurt and wounded, not the case with families. it is believed that the blood that ties you with your family member would immediately put them as the best source of aid and comfort.

understanding that what i'm about to say doesn't apply to everyone and varies based on the given person and circumstances, but this is what i conclude over the past 27 years of my existence. i am blessed to have them as my friends, whom i considered true friends. most of the time friends let you down, disappoints you and eventually betray you. nevertheless, rest assured that if you look close enough and be one, you will at least found one if not many.

as far as family goes, i agree that the blood and genetic connection is undeniable, yet the very existence and reliance on them in terms of understanding and helping in difficult times is still questionable. not everyone does it. not every one wants to.

this is where i give my friends the credit. when you are related, you would be bound to help and share or even understand, not necessarily wanting to do all of it. with friends, however, those who stayed and stood by you are those who are voluntarily and willingly want to help and understand you (and i mean real ones, not the ones with hidden agenda or looking for fringe benefits).

as much i want people to agree with me, i will let this one slide. as i discussed this issue with an average-reasonable-person, we agreed that it all goes down to notion of trust. who do you trust the most? regardless of the blood connection or probably your worst enemy, it is the hardest thing to build trust and to maintain trust.

i only wish i had the chance to conclude this argument with the above statement. but i didn't, or to be precise we didn't. the train stopped and we had to get off. leaving an argument hanging before going to bed is seen to be the worst thing that will put you off your sleep. at least for me.